I don't comprehend pc-ness. It seems to be the tool for ego-stroking, and... I simply don't do it. LOL
I tend to rec a new author, who I think deserves encouragement. And I usually word it as such so that anyone who reads with their brain switched on sees the difference between a squeeful fic rec and an encouraging-a-new-writer fic rec. I agree with being kind and supportive to friends, or newcomers, or anyone, really. As a beta, I'm as blunt as in RL, and I do say what I need to say in order to hope for improvement in the writing. If they go off and sulk for a week or two, then it's their problem, and I can clearly see an ego issue there. Then I'll simply withdraw.
I have stopped making personal recs from my journal, because I have no idea how to balance the needs of people that I care about against my own standards. It seems easier and fairer not to rec at all.
I understand that. But then, is it really needs of people you care about? Or could it be wants, demands, expectations? And easier not to rec at all? Probably. Fairer? Hm. Personally, I'd love to see what you like in terms of writing. Why? I'm interested because I can see some parallels to myself (doesn't that make you shudder? LOL). You have these wonderful dynamics going between a small circle of close friends, and it all looks like it started simply because of your love of the HP books and grew into wonderful friendships across the country if not world. I am blessed to have the same, and it really isn't that rampant in the fandom. :) You're also one of the few people in this part of the fandom (I can't talk about others, as I don't know them) who's written a smashingly successful epic, and you haven't inflated your ego. So, naturally, I want to know what fic draws you. Not what you feel should be recced. So, from my point of view, not entirely fair to withhold recommendations. :)
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Date: 2008-12-03 04:19 am (UTC)I tend to rec a new author, who I think deserves encouragement. And I usually word it as such so that anyone who reads with their brain switched on sees the difference between a squeeful fic rec and an encouraging-a-new-writer fic rec. I agree with being kind and supportive to friends, or newcomers, or anyone, really. As a beta, I'm as blunt as in RL, and I do say what I need to say in order to hope for improvement in the writing. If they go off and sulk for a week or two, then it's their problem, and I can clearly see an ego issue there. Then I'll simply withdraw.
I have stopped making personal recs from my journal, because I have no idea how to balance the needs of people that I care about against my own standards. It seems easier and fairer not to rec at all.
I understand that. But then, is it really needs of people you care about? Or could it be wants, demands, expectations? And easier not to rec at all? Probably. Fairer? Hm. Personally, I'd love to see what you like in terms of writing. Why? I'm interested because I can see some parallels to myself (doesn't that make you shudder? LOL). You have these wonderful dynamics going between a small circle of close friends, and it all looks like it started simply because of your love of the HP books and grew into wonderful friendships across the country if not world. I am blessed to have the same, and it really isn't that rampant in the fandom. :) You're also one of the few people in this part of the fandom (I can't talk about others, as I don't know them) who's written a smashingly successful epic, and you haven't inflated your ego. So, naturally, I want to know what fic draws you. Not what you feel should be recced. So, from my point of view, not entirely fair to withhold recommendations. :)